I feel like lately my new feeds and blog readers are full of post about how hard new motherhood is, or how it will get better, or how proud of myself I should be for “making it through” the 1st year. I just read a post about how a mom thinks she’s not very good at this motherhood thing and how she needs a life boat…
While I understand that being a mom and adjusting to motherthood is hard for some people I think we need some stories out there about how it’s not. I think the I internet is getting flooded with the negative. The hard stuff. Stories that poor preggo ladies must be scared to death of. It’s like new mamahood is some kind of crazy train that your can’t get off of. I had someone today tell me that they’re excited when the weekend is over so they can drop their kid off at daycare since they’re so exhausting on the weekend.
I’m seriously not here to judge. I know everyone’s situation is different and everyone’s babies are different and I guess what I’m going for here is a post that can get out on the internet about how easy being a mom is. How amazing. How the 1st year hasn’t been hard at all. And I don’t want to have to apologize for having an “easy” baby or feel “lucky” or be worried that #2 is going to be a terror.
Being a mom is the most natural thing in the world to me. Yes, it was sad when Garrity had reflux issues, and I was tired on days she wouldn’t nap but it wasn’t this doom and gloom story I feel like I’ve been reading lately. The hardest part of it all? Leaving her when I went back to work and still the hardest part of my day is when I drop her off at daycare. But the best part of my day is walking through her classroom door and seeing her eyes light up when she sees her mama.
I read something yesterday that was a post to working moms from a stay at home mom and it said something about how I shouldn’t worry if I’m “enough” for my daughter because I work. Man oh man did that light a fire under me. Not once has it ever crossed my mind that I’m not enough for my daughter. And it shouldn’t cross any new mom or new dad’s mind.
All you new moms or soon to be moms…i just want to tell you not to be scared about this parenthood thing. Don’t believe everything you read. You will likely have some tougher than other days but more often than not you will get to experience the most amazing days, the most joyful days, the funniest days, the happiest days…
So don’t believe everything you read (especially Dr Google, he can scare the crap out of you). Instead trust your gut, listen to your heart and pour all the love you have into that little baby of yours.